"She's a 5 Pinter!"
BUILDING A SOCIETY OF EQUALITY & COMPASSION
Picture the scene - On stage there is a woman looking glitzy and glamorous singing her beautiful heart out to a crowd of 10,000+ audience who are thoroughly enjoying her energy and the gift of her voice… and a comment by a 40+ something male was “she is a 5-pinter!”
WTF!
I didn’t really process this until the next day, as to how this was a conditioned social response to look at a woman and to judge her by what she looks like – her worthiness was graded by how “shaggable” she was – that for her to be “graced” by that man to fuck her, he would have to be intoxicated to do so!
Had it actually occurred to him that actually there may be no way in hell the woman herself would even want to be “fucked” by him – such arrogance comes from this comment!
That somehow women are only judged and valued by how they look and how sexually attractive they are!
Had they not seen beyond what they saw and heard and seen the beauty of her Soul – her voice – how through being in herself fully, she was holding a space that was bringing joy to thousands of others?
For this is what I saw, a woman absolutely in her power and thus her beauty and radiance!
So this response came from a father of a young girl – would he like it if such a response was given to his daughter when she is older, in her impressionable teens and early twenties, when she will be vulnerable exploring the depths of her own value and self-worth? That men are looking at her purely on her sexual value and worth?
FUCK NO…imagine the fire of protection that would emanate from this man for his daughter as a father, to want to preserve her purity – her innocence – her value – her depth and beauty within and all that she is – to protect from such predatory interest.
Yet this same person will look at other women in such a way, to say out loud even in "jest", what message does this carry to his/our daughters consciously and subconsciously – what patterns of self-worth and neural pathways are being formed in the daughters subconscious mind – the “acceptable and “unacceptable”, the expectations of her, the deconstruction of healthy boundaries before they have even been founded?
What subliminal message and pattern does this show to his/our sons, for them to grow as the next generation of the masculine?
What patterns of society does this continue?
Something that can longer be carried off or laughed off as a joke – just having a laugh! – no harm meant by it! –who’s fucking laughing?!
As a woman I am not, underplaying this stealth abuse for women in form of jest – to devalue them consciously and subconsciously – an attempt to wave away and dilute the social inequality. To brush away the deep rooted shadows of society that has suppressed women and plagued humanity for thousands of years.
I appreciate people will look at others in a sexual way, that is normal which cannot be denied nor shamed, however it is how we act upon such feelings, ensuring mutual consent and respect, this is what we must and need to cultivate in ourselves and collectively with our families, friends, community, society and countries.
For this healing of humanity and society to truly happen – women need to recognise and own their self-worth in love and acceptance as whole, without their worth being judged by others, especially the deep ingrained pattern of “needing” from the male – big hairy bullocks to that!
Once women catalyse this journey, to no longer sacrifice her inner peace to “keep-the-Peace”, to embody their sovereignty, their inner gold of inner wisdom and beauty, as they hold compassion for themselves and others, they form a bridge for the masculine to see and choose to heal these shadows of abuse and suppression – to want a golden and healthier future for themselves, our children and for the generations to follow.
Women become the pattern breaker, the cycle of victim and perpetrator
As a collective, we don’t laugh it off nor blame the “over-sensitive” female to hide the undertones of abuse and imbalance –
We neither shame nor guilt-trip these shadows back into the underground.
To heal it – we need to see it – we need to hold an objective awareness without the vortex of emotion, that may otherwise seemingly justify our thought and actions of fear.
To see the shadows for what they are, consciously for the first time – we see our inherited patterns – we call them out of our subconscious without fear, guilt shaming and persecution.
To hold this space, the crossroads of society to discern as to which path serves us to our greater good with greater compassion and truth.
Within this space we allow one another to speak our truth without the fear of persecution, of judgement and shaming, upon this we grow, we see a higher perspective and learn to enable us to evolve as a collective.
To be a Voice of Integrity Compassion & Empathy
As a Woman we say NO to this behaviour and shout YES to ourselves – we embody our value and worth, thus becoming the inspiration and path setter for our daughters and sons.
For humanity to heal and evolve, women must feel the anger and rage to allow the power of self-worth and love to finally be acknowledged and felt, yet alchemise this pain into love and strength – not to become into fight energy, a witch hunt of vengeance – No, we embody the depth of the feminine energy and hold the stage, the platform, the space for all shadows to be called out and seen in full light of heart consciousness.
Thus becoming the bridge of compassion to enable the masculine to heal their shadows of both the masculine and feminine.
As a man heals they create the healthy boundaries of respect and value their power and strength to be used in a way that is compassionate. This is when they step up and into their true power, not of fight and fear, but of love and compassion for each being and the Earth we walk upon, to no longer abuse for ones gains.
As both sides engage in responsibility of self and choose to heal, we create harmony, peace and balance fully empowered as collective –
This is Evolution!
Individually We Heal - Collectively we Evolve
Open Our Hearts
